If I read the phrase \u201cthese uncertain times\u201d one more time, I will not be held accountable for my actions. It\u2019s flat, hackneyed, over-used – and I’m sure I\u2019m guilty of having written it myself. That said, it is a fairly accurate description of our current situation. While I don\u2019t believe we live in a more dangerous, difficult or indeed uncertain age than any other, I think we have of late been suffering from a very specific kind of confusion, ambiguity and unpredictability. Can we travel? Mask or no mask? Will school be open today? Will events go ahead? Can I leave the house?<\/p>\n
Unsurprisingly for a coach, I am usually in full resolutions mode at this time of year. I\u2019m setting goals, defining objectives, listing behaviours to change or adopt \u2013 both for me and with my clients. However, given the aforementioned uncertainty of our times, I am finding it rather hard to get excited about planning my year. It seems futile to set too many objectives when the goalposts are changing so often, but starting a new year without any kind of momentum is anathema to me.<\/p>\n
So, what can you do if you want to get 2022 off to a mindful start and a positive direction, but you can\u2019t quite find it in you to set SMART goals and make a chart with shiny gold stars? For me, this year\u2019s resolutions are going to give achievement a rest and focus instead on intention<\/em>. In other words, not so much of the what<\/em> (or where and when) but a bit more of the how<\/em> and why<\/em>.<\/p>\n It ain\u2019t what you do, it\u2019s the way that you do it<\/strong><\/p>\n So, what\u2019s the difference between an objective and an intention? Well, when I take my children to school, for example, my objective is very simple: I want to get them both to the school gates on time, fully dressed and shod, and carrying all the things they need. Now I\u2019ll just wait while all the parents reading this pick themselves up off the floor from laughing at my calling that objective simple \u2013 it is indeed anything but! But you get my point. My intention for our journey to school is more complex. As we walk, I want to enjoy a moment with the children when my attention cannot be elsewhere. I want to take the opportunity to chat with them, maybe play games like I Spy, and generally set a positive tone for our day. All too often, the achievement of my objective seems at odds with my ability to stick to my intention. But when I am on my fifth \u201cPlease go round the muddy puddles!\u201d (curse Peppa Pig) and their hundredth \u201cI\u2019ve got a stone in my shoe\u201d, holding my intention in mind helps me keep calm, retain perspective, and remember that, to me, how<\/em> we get to school is almost as important as getting there at all.<\/p>\n Resolving with intent<\/strong><\/p>\n Let\u2019s apply this to topics that are often the basis for resolutions. Getting healthy, for example. The objective might be to lose a few kilos and gain some muscle. The way in which you go about doing that and the activities you put in place will differ greatly depending on your intention, which might be anything from \u201cself-care\u201d to \u201csetting an example to the kids\u201d or \u201cmoving with joy\u201d. Your objective defines your destination, but your intention sets the tone for the trip there.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t even need to associate an intention to an objective to experience the benefits of this psychological hack. What would it feel like to enter 2022 without goals and objectives but with the simple intention of, say, prioritising kindness towards yourself and other people? Your intention might be a single word: strength, joy, patience, Namaste. Or a colour. Or maybe it takes the form of an image: a tree in gusty winds that is flexible enough to bend and so is never broken, for example. Or perhaps it\u2019s even a little abstract \u2013 like a brilliant UK advert I remember from years ago encouraging people to be more playful and enthusiastic with the slogan \u201cBe more dog\u201d. Just think about the flavour, tone and colour you want to experience this year and see what comes to you.<\/p>\n