You are enough: when it’s time to say no to self-improvement

It may seem at best counter-intuitive and at worst blasphemous for a coach to say this, but lately I’ve been pondering question of whether, at some point, we should say enough is enough when it comes to self-improvement and personal development. I’m surely thinking these subversive thoughts in part because the end of the year […]

Stop shoulding on yourself: how to break the habit

Do you ever should on yourself? I sometimes do. It goes something like this. That colleague is getting a new certification. I should do that. That family is going to Lapland for Christmas. We should do that. Maybe I should be using Instagram. Maybe I shouldn’t have left Twitter. That woman looks great with bright […]

Six little words: balancing the pursuit of excellence and enjoyment

Before every exam, test, performance or interview I have ever had, my mother said just six words: “Do your best, and enjoy it”. Sounds odd, doesn’t it? No “good luck” or “it’ll be fine”, and I don’t think many parents tell their kids to try to enjoy an exam. But that simple advice has successfully […]